It’s been awhile since my last blog post, but I am still here. When my mother passed away in July 2014, I knew that I wanted to make many life changes. My daughter had moved to St. Louis, Missouri, one year prior. My wife and I wanted to move closer to her. Since that time, here’s a summary of what has transpired:
- We took care of my mother’s affairs, which included selling her home, donating or selling her belongings, and handling the many financial matters associated with her estate.
- I sold my pest control business. I had been self-employed for 35 years.
- We made lots of updates to our home in New Jersey in order to get the best possible selling price. I had to oversee the work of many contractors, some of whom were difficult to deal with.
- We sold our home in New Jersey, despite the lack of cooperation of the co-listing realtor that brought the eventual buyer to my home. As you can imagine, this was a very stressful experience!
- Once the house sold, we had to put our belongings into storage, which ended up spanning several locations. We were still in the process of finding another house in Missouri…over 950 miles away.
- Since our mover from New Jersey didn’t have a truck big enough for all of our stuff (a major mistake on their part!), I had to rent a cargo van and drive to St. Louis and back three times. Each trip was over 950 miles! Also, when the movers delivered our things, many items were broken! I had to deal with all of this stress!
- We found a house in Missouri about two hours before we had to be at the airport to return to New Jersey. (Yikes!) We were really excited about this house, but unfortunately, the home inspection exposed too many problems. We canceled the deal.
- We lived with our daughter in a one bedroom apartment for three months. Can you imagine three people and two cats in one small apartment?
- We found a house that we loved! It was a relief because we had been living out of suitcases all of this time. We couldn’t wait to complete this transition and move into our new home!
- On September 26, 2016, I went from being well to feeling sick most of the time. I had high blood pressure, chronic fatigue, and lacked concentration. After going to many doctors and undergoing lots of medical tests, I was diagnosed with a severe case of sleep apnea. There were also issues with my blood pressure medication, so I had to switch to a different one.
- It’s taken me almost two years to restore my health and concentration. I have no doubt that the prolonged, high stress that I had endured over this long transition period played a big factor in manifesting these physical problems.
I started this process when I was 64, and I’m 68 now. I’m on the high side of being highly sensitive. It frustrates me when highly sensitive people use their sensitivity as an excuse for not doing things. Excuse my rant! I’m not better than anyone else. I was able to do these things because I had a burning desire to do whatever it took to reach my goal. Desire, perseverance, and focus were the ingredients that got the job done.
Beginning today, I will publish 23 posts on consecutive Mondays about what I’ve been doing the past four years. I should call the series “The Miracle of Doing The Impossible!” I’ll chronicle the steps (summarized above) that my wife and I took to move halfway across the country to be closer to our daughter. On Wednesdays, I’ll publish blog posts on other subjects. As always, I write from my perspective as a highly sensitive person, sharing the lessons I’ve learned.
My wife and I accomplished something that we didn’t think was possible. Despite many setbacks, we did it! I hope that this series of blog posts will motivate you, as a highly sensitive person, to take on something that’s truly important to you. Again, I want to emphasize that being highly sensitive isn’t a reason for not going after what you want!
Well that’s enough about me! What topics would you like me to write about? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have. I don’t want this to be a one-sided conversation. Please tell others about my blog, so that we can expand our HSP community and support each other!
Blog Post 2 is about the difficult time that I had with my mother’s death.