#HighlySensitivePeople: Do You Have To Be Aggressive To Be Assertive?

Being the highly sensitive person that I am, I know it can be challenging to assert your needs and wants to others. Do you feel that you need to take an aggressive approach to accomplish this?

The good news is that you don’t have to be aggressive to get what you want. Assertive communication is expressing your point of view in a clear, concise, and direct fashion. You can do with this with a strong and firm voice that is neither aggressive nor confrontational. Don’t raise your voice and maintain eye contact. It’s very important to make sure that your communication is clear. It should leave no doubt in the listener as to what you are saying and why you are saying it. (more…)

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Highly Sensitive People: Do you take other people’s crap?

Do you take other people’s crap? By that I mean, do you let other people say or do inappropriate things to you that you don’t deserve?

I must admit that when I was a child, I didn’t defend myself. I let people walk all over me. Since I was too afraid to fight back, I became a human doormat! The best advice that my late mother ever gave me was, “Speak up, or be left behind.”

These are words of wisdom that I should have heeded many years before I actually did. I found that the better I felt about myself, the more I assertive I could be, and the more assertive I was, the better I felt about myself. I believe that’s called a virtuous cycle. (more…)

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Highly Sensitive People: Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?
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Highly Sensitive People: Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?

I never thought I needed to explain my high sensitivity. If something bothered or irritated me that I was very “sensitive” to, I would let that person know I wasn’t happy. Sometimes I handled it in a proper and calm way and explained why something bothered me. I didn’t mention my sensitivity.

More times than I’d like to admit, I didn’t handle it in a civilized manner. If someone commented that I was “too sensitive” about something, I would retort “Yes, I am sensitive, and I don’t like what you said” in a not so nice tone of voice. I would then explain what was bothering me. Hey, I never said I was perfect! Although we highly sensitive people try to be. Why is that? (more…)

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Are you an effective complainer?
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Are you an effective complainer?

As a highly sensitive person, I don’t like conflict, but sometimes it’s necessary to fight for what we want and deserve. Below is an article that promotes “effective complaining.”


Four tips to be an effective complainer by Dan Gregory & Kieran Flanagan

Getting what you want requires a willingness to be a little irritating. As the old adage goes, the squeaky wheel gets the oil. The people who complain the most get the most attention—and fair or not, they get what they want. Yet most of us are uncomfortable with the idea of complaining. We don’t want to make a noise about things, much less an irritating one. (more…)

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