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#HighlySensitivePeople: Are You An Effective Complainer?

Post category:Assertiveness Challenge and Conflict Important Life Skill

As a highly sensitive person, I don’t like conflict, but sometimes it’s necessary to fight for what we want and deserve. Getting what you want requires a willingness to be a little irritating. As the old adage goes, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. The people who complain the most get the most attention—and fair or not, they get what they want. Yet most of us are uncomfortable with the idea of complaining. We don’t want to make a noise about things, much less an irritating one. Use a complaint as an opportunity to find a solution and improve the situation. (more…)

#HighlySensitivePeople: Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?

Post category:Assertiveness Important Life Skill

I never thought I needed to explain my high sensitivity. If something bothered or irritated me that I was very “sensitive” to, I would let that person know I wasn’t happy. Sometimes I handled it in a proper and calm way and explained why something bothered me. I didn’t mention my sensitivity.

More times than I’d like to admit, I didn’t handle it in a civilized manner. If someone commented that I was “too sensitive” about something, I would retort “Yes, I am sensitive, and I don’t like what you said” in a not so nice tone of voice. I would then explain what was bothering me. Hey, I never said I was perfect! Although we highly sensitive people try to be. Why is that? (more…)

#HighlySensitivePeople: Are You Brave Enough To Claim Your Independence?

Post category:Assertiveness

Happy Independence Day! For my international readers, Independence Day is annually celebrated on July 4th in the United States. It’s the anniversary of our country’s Declaration of Independence from Great Britain in 1776. The early colonists in America felt they were being treated unfairly by the English, so they bravely took up arms and fought for their liberty and independence. On this day, patriotic displays and family events are organized throughout the United States.

This holiday always gets me thinking about what is means to be independent. Are you an independent person? By that I mean, are you free of unfair treatment by people who have power over you? It could be a spouse, a friend, a boss, co-workers, or possibly your kids. (more…)

#HighlySensitivePeople: Are You Getting The Most For Your Money?

Post category:Assertiveness Decision Making

As highly sensitive people, many of us dislike conflict, so we may avoid confronting service providers who don’t do a good job. That doesn’t seem fair to me, so I want to encourage you to be assertive when it comes to hiring people, even when it isn’t easy. We deserve the best!

The search for reliable service providers in every sector — including home, automotive, legal, financial, medical, computer, and retail — has become so frustrating that in many cases price isn’t a major concern. How many times have you thought to yourself, “I don’t mind paying for a decent job and good service, but I don’t want pay more, and still not get the work done correctly, and have aggravation too.” (more…)

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