Are you an effective complainer?
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Are you an effective complainer?

As a highly sensitive person, I don’t like conflict, but sometimes it’s necessary to fight for what we want and deserve. Below is an article that promotes “effective complaining.”


Four tips to be an effective complainer by Dan Gregory & Kieran Flanagan

Getting what you want requires a willingness to be a little irritating. As the old adage goes, the squeaky wheel gets the oil. The people who complain the most get the most attention—and fair or not, they get what they want. Yet most of us are uncomfortable with the idea of complaining. We don’t want to make a noise about things, much less an irritating one. (more…)

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Are you brave enough to claim your independence?
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Are you brave enough to claim your independence?

Happy Independence Day! For my international readers, Independence Day is annually celebrated on July 4th in the United States. It’s the anniversary of our country’s Declaration of Independence from Great Britain in 1776. The early colonists in America felt they were being treated unfairly by the English, so they bravely took up arms and fought for their liberty and independence. On this day, patriotic displays and family events are organized throughout the United States.

This holiday always gets me thinking about what is means to be independent. Are you an independent person? By that I mean, are you free of unfair treatment by people who have power over you? It could be a spouse, a friend, a boss, co-workers, or possibly your kids. (more…)

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Do you take other people’s crap?

Do you take other people’s crap? By that I mean, do you let other people say or do inappropriate things to you that you don’t deserve?

I must admit that when I was a child, I didn’t defend myself. I let people walk all over me. Since I was too afraid to fight back, I became a human doormat! The best advice that my mother ever gave me was, “Speak up, or be left behind.”

These are words of wisdom that I should have heeded many years before I actually did. I found that the better I felt about myself, the more I assertive I could be, and the more assertive I was, the better I felt about myself. I believe that’s called a virtuous cycle. (more…)

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Are you too trusting?
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Are you too trusting?

I’m learning that I can’t trust others until they’ve earned my trust. It’s never a good idea to reveal too much about yourself before trust has been established.

Why do highly sensitive people tend to trust too soon in both professional and personal relationships? For me, I’ve been naive in thinking that everyone has honorable intentions. In the real world, this just isn’t true. (more…)

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