#HighlySensitivePeople: Should You Explain Yourself?

Should you explain yourself when things don’t go well, or when you make a mistake? Should you explain the decisions you make? The answer to these questions depends on the situation. Do you need to clarify what you’ve said or done? Is it necessary to defend yourself? What do you want to do?

At first thought, the need to explain myself sends shivers down my spine. To me, it means I’ve made a mistake, and I now have to come up with reasons why I made it. Feelings of inferiority and shame come to mind. Low self-esteem is behind these feelings. It’s always bothered me that I feel this way, but sometimes you find inspiration in the most unexpected places. (more…)

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#HighlySensitivePeople: What Wise Words Have You Gotten From A Parent Or Teacher?

What wise words have you gotten from a parent or teacher early in your life? These wise words, "Speak Up Or Be Left Behind" were uttered to me by my late mother when I was a child. I was very quiet and easy going. I didn’t want to cause problems and deal with conflict. People took unfair advantage of me. I let this happen. I taught people how to treat me. I was a human doormat! It wasn’t until my early thirties when I grew up. I learned that if I spoke up for what I wanted and when I was wronged, people would have a new respect for me. They would know that I wasn’t a pushover. As a highly sensitive person, I wish…

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#HighlySensitivePeople: Are You Lonely?

Highly sensitive people are not more prone to loneliness than anyone else, though we may experience it in a more profound way. Everyone has some degree of loneliness, and it can manifest in many different ways.

Although highly sensitive people often have social anxiety and may socialize less than average, there are many people who can feel lonely in the middle of a crowd. In other words, a sense of isolation is not always just the result of limited social contact. Many other factors, such as emotional withdrawal, lack of trust, or just not being able to make adequate connections, can cause feelings of loneliness and isolation. Thus, not only is it important for us to reach out to others, but also to do it in a way that feels comfortable. When we feel “safe”, we are able to make much more meaningful connections. (more…)

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Highly Sensitive People: Do You Have Faith In Yourself?

As highly sensitive people, we often lack faith in ourselves, to withstand the good times and bad.  A lack of faith acts as a barrier that keeps us from leading our happiest and most productive lives.

Would you like to take your mind off of these troubling times and do something productive? Now is the perfect time to take to an inventory of yourself. Believing in yourself is a crucial ingredient for success. Few people ever do anything outstanding without having faith in themselves. If faith is weak, a person’s efforts will be weak. If faith is strong, it can unlock your power and spur you to use your natural abilities or develop new ones. (more…)

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