As highly sensitive people, we are gifted with a strong sense of intuition. This insight arises from our keen awareness of what’s going on around us and our ability to tap into the feelings and motivations of other people. We’re also highly attuned to our own feelings and responses. When something is “off,” we are quick to pick up on the discrepancy. Sometimes we may not even know why we register a red flag. The evidence may be a subtle facial expression that doesn’t match a verbal communication.
Unfortunately, we sometimes choose to ignore our intuition. We may dismiss our concerns as illogical or because we want a situation to work out. For example, a person falls in love and then willfully ignores all the red flags that come up, regardless of how dire they are! When your desire for something is strong, you can trick yourself into believing just about anything! While I’m usually pretty good at following my intuition, I fell a bit short when I was selecting someone to move us halfway across the country.
As the closing date for our house in New Jersey approached, it was time to book a mover and empty out the place. Having fully renovated our house prior to sale, I dreaded having to find yet another contractor! Ugh! However, I knew it was important to take the time to find someone reliable. After all, we would be entrusting EVERYTHING WE OWN to the company we chose.
I began my search by asking around for recommendations. When that effort failed to produce results, I made phone calls to several moving companies. Unfortunately, I didn’t find any that I felt good about and who could also meet our time frame. I moved my search to the internet, reviewing movers in my area, along with any customer feedback I could find. I’m always a bit skeptical of information I find online, so I wasn’t sure what to make of it all. Although I was frustrated because there was no “obvious” choice, I eventually settled on a mover who seemed knowledgeable on the phone and had pretty good reviews online.
However, after making my decision, I started to have some concerns. They weren’t always quick to get back to me. I was not impressed with how they were quoting the job. It was important to me to have an accurate estimate, and it was hard to pin them down, especially at first. Every time I spoke to them, the price seemed to go up. Overall, I felt like they weren’t being all that thorough. All of these things were red flags, but I overlooked them because I REALLY WANTED things to work out. I couldn’t face the prospect of starting over and talking with more contractors, especially with everything else on my plate!
When moving day came, I had a queasy feeling. I felt like all those red flags were lurking beneath the surface, so I was on high alert. Right away, I was concerned about the size of the truck. It was smaller than expected and didn’t look like it would be big enough. When I raised this concern, the movers assured me that they would be able to fit everything in. I hoped they were right, but that queasy feeling only grew.
As the truck filled up, it eventually became clear that it wouldn’t hold all of our stuff! The movers acknowledged the problem and apologized, but they had no solutions to offer. I couldn’t believe this was happening! The closing was in just three days, and everything had to be out. What would we do now? We couldn’t put our things out on the street! I was furious! The movers didn’t properly estimate the job, and now they were acting like it was our problem rather than their responsibility. They said they would transport what they could fit on the truck and left us to deal with the “overflow.”
After my wife and I got past the shock and came to our senses, we knew that we had to come up with an alternate plan fast! Fortunately, we were able to find a storage unit on short notice, though it wasn’t big enough for everything. When our neighbors, Mike and Kathy, heard about our dilemma, they kindly offered space in their garage for the rest of the items. We were grateful for having wonderful neighbors, though we’d still have to figure out how to get these items to Missouri.
While my wife and I were relieved to have managed the immediate crisis, it took a long time for me to recover from the stress of it all. I can’t tell you how much I wished I had followed my gut feelings on these movers. The mind is a powerful thing, and I ignored evidence in order to believe what I wanted to believe. As terrible as this experience was, at least I can say it was a good reminder of how important it is to follow my intuition and to take red flags seriously…regardless of how inconvenient they may be!
Have you ever ignored red flags and suffered as a result? How did you handle it? Why did you choose NOT to listen to your intuition? On the flip side, have you ever followed your intuition and were richly rewarded? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.
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