#HighlySensitivePeople: What Are You Attracting?

#HighlySensitivePeople: What Are You Attracting?

Are you attracting the people and situations that you’d like? If not, why not? It’s important to examine your thinking and the environments that you put yourself in.

How does your life feel? Are you optimistic or pessimistic? Do you associate with others that uplift or depress you? Do you feel comfortable in the place where you live, work, or places where you socialize?

These questions will help you determine what you’re attracting into your life. Your mental and physical state determines what you attract, good or bad, into your life. This determines how happy you are.

Awareness of this fact will help you make better choices. Doesn’t it make sense that you take a more proactive, rather than a reactive approach to life? Why not pick the people and environments that will help you thrive rather than survive?

Highly sensitive people have the unique ability to deep-think what they want in their lives. Do you utilize this gift?

Perhaps you do, if you don’t, don’t you feel that you deserve what you want? If you feel that you’re not deserving, where did this thinking come from? Wherever it came from, it’s not true!

Change your negative thought patterns to positive ones. You’ll be amazed at what you’ll attract into your life!

What are you attracting? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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  1. Amy

    Cliff, I don’t know if you–or anyone in the HSP community–will have an answer…I don’t really even have a real question. What I do have is the same experience that keeps cropping up, including when I think things are going well. Then BAM! Surprise! I get sucker-punched right in the damn gut.
    I’ve been teaching group fitness at a new gym and LOVING it! I’ve been having larger numbers to my classes then I did at the previous gym, where I was for 2+ years, as well as just started personal training w/ three clients & already have established a positive rapport.
    There’s also an option of a hybrid situation at this gym, a cross b/t group and PT, so…small-group PT basically. I was offered a position in that role, as well; and four of us went to Birmingham for training this past week. A few days prior to leaving, one person said (& this is so not new; she’s decidedly not the first to issue this exact comment), “We’re going to get you out of your shell!” I calmly replied that I was not in a shell, though I wish now I had the presence of mind to ask her to tell me more about this shell she perceives.
    Several other small details cropped up in the immediate time frame, which I brushed off as they were not hills to die on; & finally she arrived to pick me up. The heat was BLASTING in her car, and I asked if we could turn the heat down. No response. Not a sure, not a no, not a kiss my ass–nothing. The girl in the backseat w/ me just quietly said, “Roll your window down.”
    I could see one of those air-freshener leis, as well as a plug-in on the dash, and was completely overwhelmed by the scents. I do not use those toxins in my home or car for obvious reasons. I also had a backpack on my lap (nowhere else to put it) and couldn’t see the front very well, so we were nearly five hours into our trip when I saw a puff of smoke coming around her seat when said backpack was moved. She and the other person in the front had been vaping the entire drive. I had NO idea prior to that moment that either one vaped. Further, even if I vaped–which I absolutely do not–if I had other people in my vehicle, it would be common courtesy to ask if they minded b/f I started huffing and puffing away like a smokestack.
    I already had been having an allergic reaction, which everyone knew because my eyes had been crusted over, & I’d looked like a lizard for two weeks, complete w/ the George Soros bags under them, which is NOT a good look on anyone.
    This affected my ability to think, to process, to function, to perform…Ultimately, the director of the program, an upper level member of management whom I’ve known for several years (sort of…I got my Barre cert w/ him; but the remainder of our interaction has been on LinkedIn; he lives in Dallas now) took me aside and told me he was pulling me out of training b/c I obviously did not want to be there, that my attitude sucked, that I was insubordinate, and that I was an adult and should have had a conversation with this superior in whose car I was riding about her vaping. He absolutely did not understand the nature of the situation, have any desire to understand it, have or express any empathy whatsoever. He became ever more flustered and started to accuse me of arguing with him until he realized I wasn’t saying anything except to answer his questions and then charged that I wasn’t receiving what he was saying. I did not say what I was thinking, which was that I wasn’t receiving it because it based on a faulty premise and wasn’t accurate about me or the situation at all.
    I’m not due back at the gym until 5:45p to train a client, and I have no idea what to expect when I get there. These things generally do not end well for me.

  2. Cliff

    Hi Amy,

    You haven’t done anything wrong! You’re growing your group training and personal training programs because you’re “attracting” new clients because of your positive and encouraging energy. Doesn’t this make sense? You don’t need to change yourself.

    About your trip to Birmingham…The people on the trip were very insensitive people. You have every right to assert your needs. No need to apologize for that. It was just an unfortunate situation that you had no control over.

    You might want to explain again, in private, to your supervisor what actually happened and you did want to be there.

    Sometimes we “attract” situations to ourselves to learn a lesson. In your case, you might want to travel by yourself when you’re taking a trip. Again, another lesson can be that you don’t need to change yourself. Some people like to put down others to make them feel better about themselves.

    Do the best that you can. Don’t let others affect how you feel about yourself. You doing just fine the way you are.

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