Do you have to be aggressive to be assertive?
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Do you have to be aggressive to be assertive?

Being the highly sensitive person that I am, I know it can be challenging to assert your needs and wants to others. Do you feel that you need to take an aggressive approach to accomplish this?

The good news is that you don’t have to be aggressive to get what you want. Assertive communication is expressing your point of view in a clear, concise, direct fashion. You can do with this with a strong and firm voice that is neither aggressive nor confrontational. Don’t raise your voice and maintain eye contact. It’s very important to make sure that your communication is clear. It should leave no doubt in the listener as to what you are saying and why you are saying it. (more…)

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Do you ask for what you want?

Our pets are pretty good at letting us know when their needs are not being met, but what about you? Do you ask for what you want? Or are you the type of person who feels that you can solve all of your problems yourself? Do you tend to assume that others can read your mind when you want something?

As a highly sensitive person, I instinctively try to handle all situations myself and believe that others know what I’m feeling and wanting. Sometimes when I ask for help, it makes me feel like a failure.

Over the years, I’ve been working on releasing some of these self-defeating beliefs. After all, they never make the situation better and only place more stress on my already overactive nervous system. (more…)

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Are You Getting The Most For Your Money?
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Are You Getting The Most For Your Money?

As highly sensitive people, many of us dislike conflict, so we may avoid confronting service providers who don't do a good job. That doesn't seem fair to me, so I want to encourage you to be assertive when it comes to hiring people, even when it isn't easy. We deserve the best! We currently have an economy where manufacturing provides approximately 19% of all jobs, with service making up the other 81%. With such a service-intensive economy, I think a fair question to ask is... why is it so difficult to get what we pay for? The search for reliable service providers in every sector — including home, automotive, legal, financial, medical, computer, and retail — has become so frustrating that in many cases price isn’t…

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Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?
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Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?

I never thought I needed to explain my high sensitivity. If something bothered or irritated me that I was very “sensitive” to, I would let that person know I wasn’t happy. Sometimes I handled it in a proper and calm way and explained why something bothered me. I didn’t mention my sensitivity.

More times than I’d like to admit, I didn’t handle it in a civilized manner. If someone commented that I was “too sensitive” about something, I would retort “Yes, I am sensitive, and I don’t like what you said.” in a not so nice tone of voice. I would then explain what was bothering me. Hey, I never said I was perfect! Although we HSPs try to be. Why is that? (more…)

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