Do You Make the Time for Play?
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Do You Make the Time for Play?

Do you take time out to have fun in your life? Do you engage in activities that re-charge your emotional and physical batteries? While we all need playtime, most of us have a little voice in our head that is chock full of excuses as to why we shouldn’t indulge ourselves.

You may think things like: Play? Who has the time to play? I have more important things to do. It would be irresponsible to think of doing something that sounds so trivial. (more…)

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Cliff’s “Big Move” Blog Post #23 Why It Was Well Worth The Effort!
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Cliff’s “Big Move” Blog Post #23 Why It Was Well Worth The Effort!

As of late, I feel as though I’ve become somewhat of an expert on change. If you’ve been following my “Cliff’s Big Move” series of 23 posts, you will certainly understand why I feel qualified to say that! This is the final post in the series. Coping with the loss of my mother, settling her estate, selling my business of 35 years, leaving my home of 33 years, and moving half way across the country to be closer to my daughter was A LOT to deal with in a four-year period!

Changes—whether good or bad—cause stress and anxiety. They can usher in a cascade of unpleasant emotions, such as the sadness of leaving something behind, concern over adjusting to a new situation, fear of an uncertain future, and grief over a loss. As highly sensitive people, we often focus on the negative aspects of change, which can induce us to stick with the status quo, regardless of how unsatisfying the circumstance may be. We fail to consider the many positive features of change, such as the joy of controlling your own destiny, the opportunity to grow and learn, and the sense of accomplishment you feel in reaching your goals. (more…)

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Don’t Let Other People Define You!

Highly sensitive people and introverts often grow up feeling “different.” We struggle to fit in, adapting as much as we can, though those isolating feelings rarely go away completely. With that in mind, I wanted to share an uplifting story I came across about a young woman who wasn’t afraid of being different and sought to challenge stereotypes rather than conform to the expectations of other people.

Santina Muha is a Rutgers University alumna, writer, fashion model, public speaker, actress, comedienne, and internet personality. I almost forgot to mention that she is also a T-11 paraplegic. In March of 1989, when Santina was 5 years old, she was in a car accident that left her paralyzed from the waist down with a spinal cord injury. She says that many people are not able to see past her disability, a perception she is determined to change. (more…)

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Cliff’s “Big Move” Blog Post #22 Lessons Learned (Part 2)

Making changes, especially major ones, can be extremely difficult for highly sensitive people. It’s tempting to stick with what’s comfortable and familiar, even when we may not be completely satisfied. Change is hard, but it can be accomplished!

Below is Part Two of a list of Lessons Learned from my “Big Move” series, where I chronicle a major move that my wife and I made to live closer to our daughter. It was a multi-year journey that encompassed a series of significant life changes, including the loss of my mother, settling her estate, selling my home of 33 years, selling my business of 35 years, and moving from New Jersey to Missouri. (more…)

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