Do you really need to be perfect?

Do you really need to be perfect? The definitions of a perfectionist are flawless, faultless, extreme, obsessive, supreme, excellence, ideal standard, extremely high standards, doing something well.

It should be a virtue, but there’s a lot of pain and frustration associated with it. It can help you do your best or it can immobilize you. Perfectionism is a result of what we learned in childhood. Social pressure, personal pressure, having unrealistic role models such as perfectionist parents. (more…)

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Does perfectionism help you?

Does perfectionism help you? It’s fine to do something to the best of your ability, but at what cost to your well-being and efficiency?

Do you have to be a perfectionist to be successful? Not necessarily. How many perfectionists try to be “too perfect” and fail to finish what they start? How many don’t start at all? There’s no evidence that perfectionists are more successful than their non-perfectionist counterparts. Given similar levels of talent, skill, or intellect, perfectionists perform less successfully than non-perfectionists because they try to obtain something that’s impossible to obtain. (more…)

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Can perfectionism help or hurt you?

Can perfectionism help or hurt you? Let’s explore this by looking at the definitions, advantages and disadvantages of this very complex word.

Perfectionist word definitions include: flawless, faultless, extreme, obsessive, supreme, excellence, ideal standard, extremely high standards, and doing something well. At first glance, perfectionism should be a virtue, but there’s a lot of pain and frustration associated with it. It can help you do your best or it can immobilize you. (more…)

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Do you have to do everything yourself?

Do you have to do everything yourself? As a highly sensitive person, it’s taken me too long to figure out the answer to this question. The answer is no!

My perfectionism used to tell me….”If you want something done correctly, you need to do it yourself.” Can any of you highly sensitive people out there relate to this nonsense?

Other non-productive thoughts and actions come to mind. They include:

* I don’t want to be obligated to anyone. Therefore, I shouldn’t ask for help when I need it. Why not, wouldn’t I try to help someone if I could? (more…)

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