Well, we are everywhere, generally speaking, but not likely in certain venues.
If you attend classes, some of your classmates might be there. Your next-door neighbor is another possibility. They may not even know they are, but they usually know they are different from other people. They don’t wear signs. Isn’t it true that we don’t like to call undue attention to ourselves?
Two-thirds of highly sensitive people are introverts, so they tend to be more quiet and soft-spoken and keep to themselves. We tend to be more empathetic to others, notice details that others miss, are more thoughtful and discerning. Some highly sensitive people are more extroverted and outgoing but tend to have similar sensitivities and do get overwhelmed and need to withdraw and recharge.
You are more likely to find highly sensitive people and introverts in libraries and bookstores, museums, art galleries, parks, nature, and may belong to environmental interest groups, etc. Dr. Elaine Aron once mentioned that a good portion of HSPs are vegetarians. Any activities that has to do with animals is a great place to meet people who share your interests. Less likely places are bars, sporting events, any place with crowds and noise, groups of people who are loud and abrasive.
You may need to take the initiative to get to know someone who is more introverted (someone has to take the first step). Use your intuition and empathy to spot people who are more like yourself. Go to events that you are interested in (book groups, volunteer your time to a cause or interest, classes, arts/crafts, etc.). If you pay attention you will spot other possible people who you share a common bond. Like any relationship, it can take lots of time and energy to develop a good friendship with someone. It’s crucial that you take the initiative to go above your comfort zone to seek meaningful relationships.
Highly sensitive people and introverts don’t need to have a lot of friends. Perhaps it’s better to have certain friends for different kinds of activities. It’s impossible to have one friend that can meet all of our needs!
Where else can you find other people like yourself? You might consider joining a Meetup Group http://www.meetup.com in your area. They have groups for any interest that you can think of.
Can you think of any other places to meet people? What small steps can you take now to meet new people? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.
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