Highly Sensitive People: Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?
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Highly Sensitive People: Do You Need To Explain Your High Sensitivity?

I never thought I needed to explain my high sensitivity. If something bothered or irritated me that I was very “sensitive” to, I would let that person know I wasn’t happy. Sometimes I handled it in a proper and calm way and explained why something bothered me. I didn’t mention my sensitivity.

More times than I’d like to admit, I didn’t handle it in a civilized manner. If someone commented that I was “too sensitive” about something, I would retort “Yes, I am sensitive, and I don’t like what you said” in a not so nice tone of voice. I would then explain what was bothering me. Hey, I never said I was perfect! Although we highly sensitive people try to be. Why is that?

It’s been easier for me to stand up for myself as I get older, wiser and more self-confident. Being highly sensitive is a term that describes the way I am. I don’t see it as a label that needs to be explained or apologized for.

You open yourself to possible ridicule if you try to defend your sensitivity. Who needs that? I’ll take the path of least resistance to avoid unnecessary conflict.

Is it important for you to mention your high sensitivity to others? If so, why so? Has this helped or hurt you? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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This Post Has 8 Comments

  1. sean

    ive been on my local radio talking about hsp ! im enfp/hss ! im a healthly one too ! i have had some dickheads giving crap bout it ! but on the whole i talk freely about it ! i firmly agree that you really need to understand it and accept it otherwise your never enjoy the gift which was once my curse !

  2. Cliff Harwin

    Hi Sean,

    You brought up a very good point!
    An understanding of ourselves is important when we want to enjoy the gifts that we have. We have the choice to explain it or not. The more we know about ourselves the less we need to explain who we are.

  3. Chris in NY

    If you do decide to reveal your extra-sensitivity, be sure to mention the benefits too. For example, “I AM extra-sensitive, but that also means that I become aware of things before most people do.”

    1. Cliff Harwin

      Hi Chris,

      Thank you for your comment. I especially like it when you mentioned that we become aware of things before most people. This is so true!!

  4. Urban_Hillbilly

    I don’t mention it because I think it sounds like I am high maintenance and must have special treatment.

    1. Cliff Harwin

      Hi Urban_ Hillbilly,
      I agree with you! We’re not high maintenance people and don’t need special treatment. We can function very well! Thank you very much!

  5. Dennis

    For me my sensitivity is a personal thing. Perhaps on a subconscious level telling other people that we are highly sensitive almost feels like a violation of boundaries. It’s almost as if we’re asking other people to treat us like a fragile hselpless waif.
    If I tell other people that I am a highly sensitive person it is usually because I suspect they are as well and that I understand and perhaps I can even help.

    1. Cliff Harwin

      Hi Dennis,
      Thank you for your comment. I like that you tell others about your high sensitivity because you feel that you can help them. Good for you! We highly sensitive people aren’t fragile. We might be sensitive, but don’t mess with us!!! LOL

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