Are you feeling stuck?
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Are you feeling stuck?

Personal growth is a natural progression of life. How come so many of us resist something that makes us smarter to make a better life for ourselves?

Could it be that any kind of change, good or bad, upsets our normal routine that causes stress? Maybe we are addicted to feeling sorry for ourselves and feel better in this state of being? Perhaps feelings of hopelessness may feel less threatening than to take the actions and responsibility to make our lives better?

Feeling stuck in our lives may stem from not outgrowing our negative programming from events and hurtful actions from others that we haven’t gotten over. Maybe we blame our genetics as the source of our problems? “My high sensitivity has caused me to be this way.” “My mother or father was this way, so I must be this way too.” Doe’s any of this self-talk sound familiar?

You might have tried this Doctor or Therapist for many years without the desired results. If this is the case, perhaps you didn’t get the right help and maybe you should have made a change sooner.

At some point, we all need to come to the realization that regardless of what has happened in the past, we are responsible for what happens to us in the future.

If you’re not happy with your present way of living, you can make a change. All it takes is to decide that you’ll do everything you can to improve your lot. It’s not the lack of availability of resources, but our lack of ability to seek help when we need it. I’m not saying this is easy, but the first and hardest step is to make a decision.

Am I being too simplistic about this? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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  1. Hear, hear for this! I’m highly sensitive and have learned through Elaine Aron’s books, Dr. David Burns’ book “Feeling Good” and learning the Law of Attraction that I was “addicted to feeling sorry for (my)self and feel better in this state of being.” At first when I considered it, it seemed silly. Why would anyone “like” being alone and sad? But I realized I used solitude and self-pity as a protection from being hurt, judged, criticized or rejected. And it wasn’t working. I learned I could change my childhood narrative, which always felt like I was attempting to lie to myself, but now I see it’s really reframing (Thanks, Elaine Aron!) the past to include good events and memories, letting the others fall away or just take their place among all my thoughts, not becoming monstrous and unbearable.

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