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Dealing With Conflict: My Lessons Learned by Marina Brink

As a highly sensitive person, I have always felt suffocated by practically any kind of conflict. The intensity and negativity of a conflict-ridden situation would darken my mood, and I would feel paralyzed.

For example, many years ago, one of my co-workers seemed to be on a mission to make my life a living hell. This person knew exactly what to say to push my buttons. As a result, I was riddled with self-doubt, and I dreaded coming to work each day. I wish I could say that I handled the situation successfully, but the truth is that I eventually quit the job. Although walking away is sometimes the healthiest thing to do, it seemed an extreme measure at the time. Perhaps if I had known about my HSP nature and had better strategies to resolve the conflict, I would have dealt with the situation differently. (more…)

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Do you have trouble making decisions?

Many highly sensitive people, as well as others, have trouble making decisions. However, we must make decisions in life, whether we want to or not. Not making a decision is a decision. We make simple choices, such as what time to get up each morning, as well as more difficult ones.

Some people are very decisive when it comes to avoiding decisions. ~ Brendan Francis

Decision making is a definite challenge for me because of my fear of making a mistake, which is due to my highly sensitive, perfectionist character trait. However, I’ve come to realize that it’s better to make wrong decisions and learn from my mistakes than to endlessly weigh pros and cons. When I avoid or postpone decisions, I feel a sense of powerlessness. (more…)

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Does perfectionism help you?

Does perfectionism help you? It’s fine to do something to the best of your ability, but at what cost to your well-being and efficiency?

Do you have to be a perfectionist to be successful? Not necessarily. How many perfectionists try to be “too perfect” and fail to finish what they start? How many don’t start at all? There’s no evidence that perfectionists are more successful than their non-perfectionist counterparts. Given similar levels of talent, skill, or intellect, perfectionists perform less successfully than non-perfectionists because they try to obtain something that’s impossible to obtain. (more…)

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Habits of Mind: 16 Essential Characteristics for Success

Do you have good habits of mind?

In their groundbreaking book, Habits of Mind, Arthur Costa and Bena Kallick, identify a set of 16 problem solving, life related skills, necessary to effectively operate in society. These skills promote strategic reasoning, insightfulness, perseverance, creativity, and craftsmanship.

One goal behind these life skills is to provide a road map as to how to behave intelligently when you DON’T know the answer. It means having a disposition toward intelligent behavior when confronted with problems or new learning.

The application of these 16 Habits of Mind will help you work through real life situations. They are as follows:

  1. Persisting: Sticking to a task at hand. Following through to completion. Can and do remain focused. (more…)

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