(16) The Red Flags Come Home to Roost

When there is a lesson for you to learn, the universe will sometimes whisper gently in your ear. Other times, it will wallop you over the head with a sledgehammer! I unfortunately experienced the latter as my wife and I prepared to move halfway across the country to be closer to our daughter.

In an earlier post, I talked about how I overlooked red flags and ignored my HSP intuition when I hired a long distance mover to relocate us from New Jersey to Missouri. Sadly, all of those unheeded, red flags were about to morph into a giant, red cape to be waved in front of my face by a diabolical matador! Okay…perhaps I’m being a bit dramatic, but our moving troubles were about to go from bad to much, much worse. Our highly sensitive nervous systems would be severely tested! (more…)

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What is a priority for you? For me, it’s being healthy.

As I get older, a very important priority for me is to be as healthy as I can for as long as I can. Over the past few years, I faced prolonged health problems and had issues with my new doctors. These health concerns affected every aspect of my life, from the personal to the physical to the emotional.

I was extremely motivated to get into a routine that would return me to a healthy state. After getting a medical clearance from my doctors, I decided to go back to the gym. I met with a personal trainer and told him about my medical issues. We came up with a reasonable program that would put me on the path to fitness, a goal that would boost both my physical and emotional health. (more…)

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(17) Do You Want To Be Happy Or Right?

We’ve all heard the old adage…Choose your battles wisely. As a highly sensitive person, I’ve always vigorously believed in this philosophy because I know the emotional and physical toll that conflict can unleash on my mind and body! However, I must admit that it isn’t always obvious to me which battles are worth fighting. The conflicts I struggle with the most are those where I know I am “in the right.” Like many HSPs, I have a strong sense of justice and feel the need to punish wrongdoers.

I was faced with just this type of conflict when my wife and I moved into our new home in Missouri. After a disastrous experience with a long-distance moving company, I spent the first hours in our new home plopped down on the floor…in utter exhaustion and almost boiling over with anger! Not only was I surrounded by mountains of boxes…but also damaged furniture, broken glass, and other ruined belongings! As we unpacked, we would be assessing our damages. I was terrified of what we would find! This was definitely NOT what I had expected to feel after accomplishing our multi-year goal of moving 950 miles halfway across the country. (more…)

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Do you need more HSP tips for the holiday blues?

Are you still getting the holiday blues? If so, below are some excellent tips from Brandielee Baker, a professional coach/strategist specializing in conflict resolution/negotiation, performance optimization and wellness.

  • Tell the truth! I’m not saying you need to publicly broadcast it. But, if you want any chance of passing through the blues, you must, must, must, honor how you REALLY feel. Write it down AND speak out loud. Just “thinking” about it in your head will NOT produce the same beneficial effects. Here is an example to help you get started. EXAMPLE: “I am really feeling overwhelmed and sad this holiday season. It is important for me to acknowledge my struggles. I understand that by doing so I am releasing some of the pressure that I have put on myself to fit in and be happy. I also understand that by releasing this pressure I am giving myself the opportunity to relax and by relaxing I am giving myself the possibility for a better experience.” (more…)

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