Cliff’s “Big Move” Blog Post Series
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Cliff’s “Big Move” Blog Post Series

Making changes, especially major ones, can be extremely difficult for highly sensitive people. It’s tempting to stick with what’s comfortable and familiar, even when we may not be completely satisfied. Change is hard, but with desire and determination, it can be done, and I will prove it!

Starting on Monday, November 19th, I’ll publish 23 posts on consecutive Mondays about all the changes I’ve made over the past four years. On Wednesdays and possibly Fridays, I’ll write blog posts on other subjects of interest to highly sensitive people.

In a series of blog posts,  I’ll chronicle a really “Big Move” that my wife and I made to move halfway across the country to be closer to our daughter. This was a HUGE change for us, as we had lived in our home in New Jersey for over 30 years! My mother had recently passed away, and our only daughter had moved to Missouri. Since neither my wife nor I were getting any younger, we knew that if we didn’t make the change now, it would never happen. (more…)

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Cliff’s Priority #2 Do you worry too much?
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Cliff’s Priority #2 Do you worry too much?

A very important priority for me is to reduce my excessive worrying. Have you ever gotten to a point where you feel like you’re worrying about everything — a point where there’s an almost constant buzz of anxiety just waiting to bubble up to the surface? I’m sure that many highly sensitive people can relate to this fretful state of mind!

One thing I’ve realized is that worry is a mindset. Once you’re caught up in the belief that everything is just about to fall apart, your brain will automatically seek evidence to validate that belief. It’s called confirmation bias. My plan is to catch myself and try to shift my state of mind before my worries get out of hand. I’m going to do this by taking a rational look at the purpose and usefulness of worry. (more…)

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(7) The Start of An Overwhelming Process
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(7) The Start of An Overwhelming Process

The idea of preparing for a move halfway across the country seemed like a daunting, almost impossible task! Where do we even start? Sometimes when I feel overwhelmed, I remind myself of the old Chinese proverb, “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” I find that just taking that first step, however big or small, can curtail the feeling of helplessness that comes with overwhelm. Taking action always makes you feel more in control.

In order to get ready for our long-distance move, my wife and I knew that it would be best to downsize as much as possible. We understood that the process of deciding what to keep, throw out, or give away was going to be difficult — though it was a hundred times more challenging than we ever thought! (more…)

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What is a priority for you? For me, it’s being healthy.

As I get older, a very important priority for me is to be as healthy as I can for as long as I can. Over the past few years, I faced prolonged health problems and had issues with my new doctors. These health concerns affected every aspect of my life, from the personal to the physical to the emotional.

I was extremely motivated to get into a routine that would return me to a healthy state. After getting a medical clearance from my doctors, I decided to go back to the gym. I met with a personal trainer and told him about my medical issues. We came up with a reasonable program that would put me on the path to fitness, a goal that would boost both my physical and emotional health. (more…)

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(6) What do I do in the next chapter of my life?

Although I had been wanting to leave New Jersey for a while, I had decided that I would not make any major life changes while my mother was still alive. She was self-sufficient for her age, but there were a number of things she needed help with, and I wanted to be there for her. I had been self-employed for 35 years and was determined to keep going for as long as I could, until something either happened to me or to my mother, whenever that time might be. (more…)

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