Do you need some insight to cope with worry? Here are some wise advice from fellow highly sensitive person Amy McNeil.
Although highly sensitive people are blessed with many wonderful gifts, they also have their share of challenges. According to Dr. Elaine Aron, highly sensitive people tend to become easily overwhelmed by life, due to a biological difference in their nervous systems. This high sensitivity can lead to worry, stress, and anxiety.
Since worry triggers and fuels many negative emotions, understanding and managing it provides an excellent starting point for “getting out of your own way”. Wikipedia defines worry as the “negative self-talk that often distracts the mind from focusing on the problem at hand”. Put another way, worry can be thought of as a barrier that blocks you from your best self. In other words, when you are in a state of intense worry, you have extremely limited “access” to things like intuition, knowledge, and talent. Instead, you have increased access to emotions that are more “compatible” with worry, such as anxiety, fear, depression, etc.
As an example, many HSPs have a tendency to under-perform while being watched. Why do you think this is? It is because fear and anxiety creep in as soon as you start to worry about what others are thinking. In essence, this fear blocks you from your knowledge and talent. However, in the absence of an observer, you are not worried and then once again have free access to your abilities. As another example, how often have you struggled to find the right words in the middle of a stressful argument, only to have those perfect words come easily to you after the argument has ended?
If you take a close look at worry, it’s simple to see that it serves no useful purpose. You will not change the outcome of anything by “worrying” about it. The only thing that worry will accomplish is to increase your suffering and to choke you off from your true self. Author and teacher, Leo Buscaglia, put it best when he said, “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.”
I’ve found that worry doesn’t help my life in any way. Action steps are my antidote to “cure” worry. Do you need some insights about worry? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have. If you have some information to share with other highly sensitive people, I’d love to post it on my blog. Please Email me if you’re interested.