Do you take other people’s crap?

Do you take other people’s crap? By taking other people’s crap I mean… Do you let other people say or do inappropriate things to you that you don’t deserve?

I must admit that when I was a child, I didn’t defend myself and let people walk over me. I was a human doormat! The best advice that my mother ever gave me was…”Speak up for yourself or you’ll be left behind.”

These are words of wisdom that I should have heeded many years before I actually did. I found that the better I felt about myself, the more I spoke up for myself.

A very important lesson that I’ve learned is you have to cut off bad behavior by dealing with it directly when it first happens. If you let it go, the perpetrator of bad behavior will be embolden to continue the unacceptable behavior and it’ll get worse!

Nobody has the right to treat you with disrespect for any reason! You must speak up for yourself! You’ll have more self-respect for yourself and you’ll find that others will have more respect for you.

You don’t have to come off as a maniac to defend yourself. A cool, collected, and calm manner is the best way to state your case. You have to let the other person know that you’re not going to tolerate their nonsense.

Do you take other people’s crap? If so, it’s worth examining why you do. Again, you don’t deserve to be treated with disrespect! I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

This Post Has 6 Comments

  1. I definitely used to take a LOT more crap than I do now. I was very shy and introverted as a child, but thankfully I have grown up to be quite a different adult. Unfortunately, many people see qualities like quietness and shyness as qualities of a stupid, arrogant, or other negative characteristic, to be the case, instead of seeing the qualities of an HSP. And I have found, usually, nothing could be further than the truth. I still tend to be the one that usually gives in, or compromises, but when it’s really important to me, I will stand my ground.

    1. I relate to everything that you said! We, HSPs, have to set the record straight about our positive traits by our actions. We definitely do have to pick our battles!

  2. I def take more crap from people then I should. Tend to think more about other peoples feelings than my own… Thinking they need to unload, they are not happy, don’t want to hurt their feelings etc…

    1. We all have to make choices. Are our feelings less valuable than others? No right or wrong answers here. Again we all have to make choices.

  3. Good advice! I spent many years as a doormat before learning this.

    1. Thanks Sid! It’s important to remember that we don’t have to accept unacceptable behavior.

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