Should you explain yourself? It depends. Do you need to clarify what you’ve said or done? Do you need to defend yourself? Is it necessary to defend yourself? What do you want to do?
At first thought, the need to explain myself, sends shivers down my spine. It means to me that I made a mistake and have to come up with reasons why I made it. Feelings of inferiority and shame come to mind. Lack of self-esteem were the reason for these feelings.
In yesterday’s Super Bowl, Peyton Manning, one of the best quarterbacks of all time, was asked by a reporter if he was embarrassed with his personal and his team’s poor performance.
He calmly explained that he and his team had worked hard all year. Indeed they had because Peyton and his team had the best personal and team statistics in the league during the regular season.
He explained that he wasn’t embarrassed because he and his team put in their best effort to practice for the game. He mentioned that disappointed was a better word to describe his feelings. He further stated that it was a great accomplishment to reach the big game.
I’ve learned that the more confident I become, the less I feel that explaining myself is a negative thing. Sometimes, I don’t feel the need to explain myself at all. I do this without feeling guilty! Now how’s that for personal growth?
Should you explain yourself? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.